Parker Inspirations

Relationships are like a road trip, sometimes there are obstacles in the way. On a road trip you take a detour. In life we have to work around the situations that come up. When we got married, we learned that our spouse does not always look put together. That first morning you asked Who are You? LOL! But seriously, we learned new things we did not know. We did not let that change our relationship.

Any relationship requires that we both realize we are on the same team. When we work together, we can jump over obstacles that come our way. Working together makes us stronger. One of the most important things I have learned through this journey is the title of all of this. Lord Change Me, not my spouse, not my family, not my friends, or anyone else, but change Me!  Our walk with God will make all the difference. Confessing our sins and yielding to the Lords power.

Sometimes, I struggle with doubt and fear, because I do not like confrontation. I love the verse “If it be possible, as much as lieth in you, live peaceably with all men.” (Romans 12:18) What I mean by struggling with doubt and fear is that I am trying so hard not to have confrontation that I do something that still causes hurt to the other person. It is not my intent to cause problems between me and others. I am trying on my own, without the power of the Lord. When I stop thinking and just trust the Lord, I do not have problems with others. We laugh together and everything is ok. This takes us back to the paragraph before. Keep our walk with God where it needs to be. When we are all seeking the Lord and having a relationship with God, then our relationship works the way it is supposed to.

I can be very selfish. When things do not go the way I expect them to go I have a hard time changing in mid-stream. I like everything to stay in order. In life it does not always work that way. I know that I need help in this area. Selfishness can make us have a defensive attitude. When I have a friend who helps me to see the situation and not condemn me, I handle the change a lot better. But when Job friends’ step in and rebuke me with a condescending attitude, I become even more selfish. How we approach someone who is on the edge can make a big difference in how they respond.  I think it is important to remember that not everyone is the same. I do not handle things the way someone else does or vise-a-versa. (James 2:4 “Look not every man on his own things, but every man also on the things of others.”