Parker Inspirations

To be offended or Hurt can sometimes be buddies but not the same thing. So many times the words offended and hurt are used to mean the same thing. However, the dictionary will clarify it this way. To be offended is to cause someone to be upset, annoyed or resentful. This can cause us to be angry and say or do something to seek away to get them back. Offense then becomes defense.

But to be hurt is much deeper. To be hurt causes pain either physically or emotionally. When we talk about our emotions we are talking about a feeling deep inside that aches. It is a feeling of loss or emptiness.

When a friend does something that hurts you deeply that is like punching them in the gut. It is like a physical injury. Those hurts can be fixed with communicating one to another. In that communication each person has to really listen to the pain and be willing to say I am sorry. Praying together can fix the pain quicker than just words.

We also have to remember that the other person may not even be aware that what they did hurt you. Again, prayer can clarify our thinking and know what to do. Do not ever assume that the other person knows what they did. One of the most common phrases when someone is hurt is: “They know what they did”.

Holding on to hurt becomes an offense because we dwell on it and then it become resentfulness. Remember the definition above of offended is resentful. Psalms 119:165 “Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them.” If we continue to hold on to hurt we are not seeking peace with God. When we seek peace then we can go to our friend and everything will work out the right way.

God is the key to everything in our life. We need to pray and first ask God to give us a forgiving heart. We need to ask God to give us the words to make things right with our friend. When we depend on God, he gives us the right words and a forgiving heart. Then we can fix the wound of hurt.